We, as a society spend a lot of time thinking about what WE want in a partner, what we like and don’t like about possible partners or even our current partners, but when was the last time you stopped to think about what kind of partner YOU are?
Do you do all of the things you wish your partner did?
Do you posses all of the qualities you look for in a mate?
Do you give more than you take?
It is fair to want or need certain things out of a relationship, not only romantic, but in any relationship. It is however difficult to expect these things if you aren’t bringing forth the same, if not better to the table.
I know personally there have been moments where I have felt frustrated with certain relationships and the qualities or characteristics lacking in the other half, but when I stepped back to really take a look at myself, I had found that I was propped up on a high horse expecting certain things that in fact I was not giving in return.
“Happiness doesn’t result in what we get, but in what we give” – Ben Carson
People treat you the way you teach them to treat you. The best form of teaching is through action, and so by treating your partner the way you would like to be treated, you are teaching them how to in turn treat you.
To be a great partner you must first really dig yourself. I mean it, love yourself first. If you are unable to see your greatness, it is unfair to expect someone else to see it.
You must also be completely in tune to what your partner need. What fuels them? Excites them? Scares them? Inspires them?
You must be equal, in everything. There is no hierarchy in a successful relationship. You’ve got to listen. We are not mind readers and even if you think you are, you are not. Listen, all in, to every word. You’ve got to communicate. See above…not mind readers. Say what is on your mind, or nothing will change.
To be a great mate you do not need to be flawless, you just have to give. Give yourself, everyday, honestly.